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Heartbreakers

Chris Snyder — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 21:00:42 +0000

What breaks your heart? Are you moved by poverty? Is it racial discrimination that brings your blood to a boil? Do you hate seeing corruption everywhere you turn? Does your heart stir for orphans, or maybe it’s abuse victims that cause you turmoil? Most likely, all of these things bother you at some level, but is there something that really breaks your heart?

Our youth group recently watched a video of Bill Hybels speaking at a leadership conference. He was talking about what he calls our “Holy Discontent”, which is basically the one thing that really breaks our hearts and consumes us. Hybels says that great things can happen when you are absolutely wrecked by something. Not just mildly offended by something, or semi-interested in a cause, but absolutely wrecked by injustice. I may not agree with all of the things that Bill Hybels says, but I do believe that God wants us to get involved with His mission to rescue people. There are many ways to get involved, but you or I cannot do all of them. If we each work toward finding that which breaks our heart, and then allow that passion to grow into action, we can start to really help people. If we are all doing our share, we can really do great things for others. I believe that finding the injustice that breaks our heart the most is the first step in finding our calling.

What can we do if we all work together?

If I can find my one heartbreaker and focus my attention on that one thing, and if you could find yours and focus on it, and the next person could find theirs… and so on, how much do you think we could accomplish? God wants us to be intently involved in His story. He has gifted all of us and set within us a brokenness over one thing or another. Do you know what that thing is? Do you know what breaks your heart?

Do You Push, or Do You Pull

Chris Snyder — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 21:30:53 +0000

A few days ago I wrote a post about a conversation I had when I was in the Army. Click here for the link. The short version is that during a lull in a training day, we were tasked to pick weeds out of a rock bed. One of the other trainees said that they did not join the Army to pick weeds out of rock beds. That post was generally about entitlement and the current trend of people who think they’re too good to do real work. This post is going to be about the same conversation, but from a different perspective.

One thing that I purposefully left out of the details of this conversation is the rank of the person I was talking to. At the time I was just a lowly Private (E2) and the complainer was a West Point cadet. The interesting aspect of this conversation lies in the fact that this cadet was (unless something happened) on her way to becoming an officer in the Army. She was on the road to be in charge of other people and to possibly make decisions that would put soldiers into life threatening situations.

My response to her, at the time, was that she needed to remember that day. I told her that at some point, she would be in charge of people and she would need to know that this is how the other half lives. I told her that soldiers were to do what they were told and that menial work is something in which most soldiers have an intimate knowledge. I told her to remember that day when she is in charge of others. I told her to remember it so that when she was leading people, she could do so with compassion and understanding.

Too many people lead by their position alone. They are the boss, they tell you what to do, and make sure you do it. They are sure to let you know, regularly, that they control your paycheck and, in turn, your life. That is not leading. That’s just pushing.

Take over to the water cooler, minions!

If you are in charge of someone or many someones, think about how you get things done. Do you use fear? Do you use manipulation? Do you make sure everyone knows you run the show, sign the checks and have all of the power? If so, you are probably getting poor performance from your team.

On the other hand, do you spend any time figuring out the abilities, knowledge, passions and talents of those you lead? If you spend time figuring out where people shine, you can organize your team better and get better performance from your people. If you show your team that you care about them and their needs, talents, passions, skills and abilities, you show them that you care about them as a person and not just as an employee or volunteer. If you make a shift in your leadership to take into account those under your care, you will be amazed at how much better your team will take care of you and the tasks at hand.

It also helps to remember how you felt when you were in their shoes, especially if you don’t have a boss anymore. How did you like hearing your boss bark orders at you? Do you still have a boss who treats you poorly? If so, does that give you the excuse to do the same to your subordinates? Pulling people along instead of pushing them around is a mindset. People love to follow their leaders, but they generally do not enjoy being pushed by insecure or egotistical tyrants.

Book Review: 31 Days to Finding Your Blogging Mojo by Bryan Allain

Chris Snyder — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 16:00:41 +0000

by Bryan Allain

I was able to get a hold of a copy of 31 Days to Finding Your Blogging Mojo before its official release, and I am excited that I got a chance to read it! I would like to start off by saying thank you to Bryan Allain and the Killer Tribes team for allowing me to be a part of your book release.

31 Days to Finding Your Blogging Mojo is amazing. It is a quick read, but it’s packed with helpful tips, thoughts and information. The information is not so much about how to tweak your blog so you can get more traffic. This book is pretty much as the title says. It helps you hone your writing, your website and your focus to bring out the best in your blog. This book is truly about finding your blogging mojo. If you just want more random traffic to your blog, this is probably not the book for you, but if you want to improve your blog and pull in dedicated readers, this should be your next book.

Bryan Allain writes with humor and insight, showing that you can still have fun blogging after 10 years online. Only having a few days to read the book, I was not able to perform all of the 31 tasks yet, but I look forward to implementing the ideas Bryan shared. I believe it will help me to refine my writing, find my reader base and help build a stronger community through my blog.

Here is the important information for those of you looking to improve your online presence:

You can order the book on Amazon here - http://www.amazon.com/Days-Finding-Your-Blogging-ebook/dp/B005MGUFX4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1315838806&sr=8-1

You can get the book as a PDF here - http://31daystomojo.com/

You can check out Bryan Allain’s blog here - http://bryanallain.com/

Do You Think You Are Above Doing Work?

Chris Snyder — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 21:00:34 +0000

“I didn’t join the Army to pick weeds out of rock beds.”The words were spoken over a decade ago. In fact, it has been almost 15 years since I heard them. I remember the conversation well. I was in jump school at Fort Benning, GA and there was a break in the training. The Army doesn’t like to pay its soldiers to sit around and do nothing (especially in a training environment), so when there is a lull in legitimate work, special provisions are made. Cleanliness is a virtue in the military, and someone has to make everything neat and tidy. The task at hand was a simple one, and not nearly as degrading as spending an entire Saturday cleaning bathrooms. Our task at the time was picking weeds out of a gravel bed.Sometimes we have to do things that sound stupid, or seem like a waste of time. There are always tasks that we have to do that we just don’t want to do. We are, inherently, selfish beings who have been told to look after number one. We are groomed to put ourselves, our needs, our desires, above all others. We are also told that we should bail out of any situation that does not bring us joy and pleasure.

Nobody joins the Army to pick weeds out of rock beds. But sometimes picking weeds out of rock beds just so happens to be the assignment for the day.

This is how the Army determines success

I love to complain about things. I’m not bragging about it, but I generally need to vent about whatever is frustrating me. At times I can take things a little far, but I know that if I don’t say something about it, I just sit and fume about whatever the problem is. I know I complained about picking the weeds, but there is a big difference between complaining and feeling superior to the non-enjoyable parts of work. I did not join the army to do menial tasks in the hot, July sun but that was what I was told to do. I was not too good for that job.

I just got back from standing behind a concession stand at an Ohio State University football game this afternoon (I like to wait a few days before I edit and post my articles for those of you wondering why you aren’t reading this on a Saturday evening or a Sunday morning) and honestly, I did not want to go and help out. I was not being paid for it, and this was supposed to be my first Saturday to relax at home with my wife in far too many weeks. I was asked by a very close friend of mine who needed a couple of people to fill up gaps in the team. I reluctantly accepted and woke up way earlier than I wanted to this morning to get up to the stadium by 9am.

Once I got over myself; my lack of sleep, my lack of quality time with my wife… I was able to enjoy myself. I may not have enjoyed running around and fetching hot dogs, waters, popcorn, pretzels and all sorts of other stuff. I may not have liked getting up early on a Saturday. I may not have wanted to spend eight hours away from my wife. But you know what? I love helping people. That’s why I’m in ministry. That’s why I work for a school district instead of a corporation. That’s also why I showed up this morning. Sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do, because it helps others. Someone has to serve food to hungry football fans. Someone has to clean the bathrooms, and yes, someone even has to pick weeds out of rock beds.

Selling the Jeep

Chris Snyder — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 21:15:38 +0000

My Jeep - stalking prey in it's natural environment

I love Jeeps. In fact, I’ve had 4 of them (if you count the Grand Cherokee I had for 6 months). If you count my wife’s Jeep, then I’ve had 5. My current Jeep is a 2006 Wrangler Rubicon. I love it, it’s by far the nicest one I’ve owned. I had a CJ-5 in high school and I bought a CJ-7 just a few years ago. I got rid of it and the Grand Cherokee to get the Rubicon when I decided owning 2 Jeeps was pretty unnecessary. My love for Jeeps runs so deep, I even married a girl who owns a Jeep (hers is a 2007 Wrangler Unlimited for those keeping track). Granted, that’s not the only reason I married her, but it was a pretty sweet selling point.

Now that I’m married, I have been thinking a lot about finances, specifically debt, and wondering if making payments on two Jeeps is a smart idea. My wife and I have two car payments, a motorcycle payment, credit cards and student loans. I understand that it’s not so abnormal to owe lots of people money. In fact, I would venture to guess that you are in a similar situation. Although debt is normal, normal does not seem to be working anymore. At least not for me. I see a lot of people around me who are struggling financially, but have no plan of escape, and don’t have any idea how to even start to dig free. I want to be in charge of my financial life. My wife and I decided to take Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University course and in it, we are learning about how to look at money from a different perspective. To be honest, we just started the course, but it has already taught us a lot about money, retirement, debt, emergency funds, credit cards and savings.

I put a quarter in, but the loan on the piggy bank is $100 a month

My wife and I have been talking for a few months about our debt and how we plan on getting out of it. We are both fairly impulsive with our money, and we both ~~want~~ need to make better decisions. We both want to have more financial freedom and we both want to be able to give money to those who need it. We also would love to be less tied down by our debt. We want to be able to move around and do whatever we feel called to do. We are sick of being stuck by our financial decisions.

We now have a choice to make. Keep the Jeep because it’s fun, or sell it because it makes financial sense. If I sell the Jeep, I can make enough money to pay it off and buy a cheap car with the money left over. How willing am I to get out of debt? How willing are any of us? Are you out of debt? Did you have to make tough decisions? Are you glad you did?

I’ll Pray For You

Chris Snyder — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 21:00:13 +0000

I’ve heard that a lot, and as a Christian, I’ve said that a lot. “II pray for you” is the Christian knee-jerk reaction to hearing anything from anyone.

You need a job, I’m praying for you.
Sick grandma, I’m praying for you, and her, and any other random family members who might be affected.
Hey, you lost a limb in a strange farm equipment accident, I’ll be in touch with the Big Guy, maybe He’ll get you a new one.

There is nothing wrong with praying for others. Prayers of intercession (the ‘hey, look at me, I know big words’ way of saying prayers that help others) are an amazing way to support people. Why would you not pray for those around you who need help? All of us know people who have needs. Whether those needs are physical or spiritual, we are all close to people who could use some prayer. God is a big God, and why not spend some time talking with Him about the issues on our minds? I love praying for other people’s needs. It really helps me take focus off myself, and it reminds me that God is in control.

You know what else is a kind gesture to those in need? Helping them. It’s a novel concept, I know. Some of you are probably staring blankly at the screen, trying to understand what that even means. ’Helping them? I’m not sure what he’s getting at. I mean I said I’d pray for them, what else can I do?’

Not that prayer isn't good, but these kids might need some physical help we can provide right now.

When I see people around me who have needs, I pray for them, but I try to help them when I am able. If they are feeling low, I offer an ear or a hug, or both. If they need some money, I offer to help out. I allow myself to be open to the needs of those around me so that I can be used to reach into their lives. I get to use my gifts to help others, and I love it.

Where is the love?

Apple Inc. has made so much money during the recession that it is poised to beat ExxonMobile as the most profitable company on the planet. This is not a statement against Apple, but a question posed to those of us who helped make that happen. The unemployment rate is just above 9%. Costs of goods and services are skyrocketing, and yet we spent so much money on unnecessary gadgets this year that we pushed a company that only makes unnecessary gadgets into a position to become the most profitable company in existence.

I have no problems with buying iWhatevers or iShinyThing#3 but where is our neighborly love? Why must we force social programs onto the shoulders of our government? If we, as ordinary people, took some time and helped those around us (volunteering at shelters, donating food and clothing, adopting and fostering children…) we wouldn’t need so many government programs. There are so many people in the world with their legitimate needs left unmet, and so many people with so much excess in their lives, why don’t we give a little bit away to help those around us?

Prayer is an amazing way to help those around us, but we need to realize that sometimes there are practical solutions that we can provide to others.

James 2:15-16 - Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it?

Dear God

Chris Snyder — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 20:45:08 +0000

Dear God,

Thank You for all of the good things You’ve done for me. Thank You for all of my blessings. Please forgive me for the wrongs that I have done, to You and to others. Please help my sick family members and help my buddy’s dad find a job. Please help me to be more awesome. Thank You for being more awesome than I could ever be. Amen

P.S.

If You invited me to be a friend, why am I praying you a pen pal letter? Should I be asking you about how your summer is going, and what you plan to do when school starts back up? Should I ask you about camp, You probably have some really cool camp stories. Anyway, just thought I’d touch base. Life has been crazy but I don’t really have time to talk about it right now. Summer’s almost over. Tell everyone I said hi.

Dear God, I hope you like this. I made it for you in art class

I hope God really isn’t offended by that. Not because it’s sarcastic or something like that. I hope He isn’t offended because that’s how a lot of my prayers go. If I look back at most of my prayers, it seems to me that I am just too vague and lame. I am not “real” with God. I acknowledge God as who He is, but talk to Him like He is only generally interested in me. I pray my little prayer and then I go about my business. Am I really praying if I do that? Is there some sort of disconnect if I don’t treat my relationship with God with any real reverence? Am I alone in thinking that my prayers are feeble and childish? I need to re-evaluate my prayer life, and tap into the true relationship I’m supposed to have with God. Maybe you do, too, but I know I do.

Have You Fully Invested in Preparation for the Future?

Chris Snyder — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 20:45:08 +0000

It doesn’t take a keen eye or some sixth sense to know that today’s kids are struggling with life. There are so many options and so many paths they have laid out before them. Most don’t seem to know where they’re going or even that they should be going anywhere. Their parents tell them what to do after school(usually college), their teachers tell them what to do, and their friends tell them what to do. They are constantly bombarded with options and choices, some with dire consequences. I see students all of the time. I work for a public school district and I am a youth leader at my church. What I see around me are students who are trying to figure out where they fit into the grand scheme of life. They have lots of decisions to make, and lots of factors to weigh. The big question is; who is actually helping them?

You won't get through to him if you can't get him to pay attention

Teenagers need direction; but who can they turn to for real help? Parents would be the easy answer, as would teachers, friends, older relatives, clergy… and many others who may or may not be the ones you want investing time into today’s youth. Sometimes even those who seem like obvious answers to us adults are not necessarily the first places teens will turn for advice. In fact, those people might be the last people teens turn to. Some teenagers are afraid of looking stupid, or failing to meet expectations. Some just don’t want to deal with the stress. The fact is, some teenagers just don’t have good role models to emulate.

See, still not paying attention

What can be done to help? Is there any way to offer help and support? I think there is. I spend a lot of time working with teenagers, and I consider that one of the best decisions I have ever made. Working with the youth group at my church has been amazing. I get to spend time with some of the greatest people I have ever met. These students are fun, funny, smart, caring, energetic and lovable. Like anything, there are good times and bad times. Joy is mixed with frustration and heartache. There is also a lot of work and it can be very stressful at times. The rewards are worth the effort, though.

I get to watch teenagers grow and mature. I get to see them stumble and fall, and then pick themselves back up again. I get to help them make decisions (well, those who choose to listen) and many have bent my ear from time to time. The relationships built as teenagers can grow into real adult friendships, too. I still spend time with a lot of my former students, and one of my old students was even the best man at my wedding.

What is the secret to being a good mentor? There really isn’t one. There are some ingredients that are needed, but they aren’t really secrets. Time and effort are key, though. Make time to be with those you mentor. It’s like any other relationship. If you neglect to spend time with someone, the relationship you form will start to die. If you don’t invest any time at all, there will eventually be no relationship. Effort is also important. Some teenagers have been let down before and it may take some legitimate effort on your part to build a solid relationship with them. They need to know you aren’t going to throw them to the wolves or berate them when they make mistakes. They need to know they can confide in you and that you are trustworthy enough to listen without judgement. There might be some baggage to sort through and some pains that need healing, but when you can see hope in the eyes of a teen, especially one who never had hope before, you will see why people devote their lives to investing in others.

Freedom

Chris Snyder — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 20:40:40 +0000

FREEDOM

Go ahead and look at that word again. Stare at it for a second and let the word sink in. Everybody wants freedom, but what exactly is freedom? What makes someone free? What do we do with freedom once we obtain it?

The U.S. is built upon the promises of freedom. Freedom of speech, religion and press are the foundation upon which we built our nation. We fought for these freedoms, and in many ways, we still fight for them. One thing that bothers me is that I think we have lost sight of what freedom really means.

In the movie, The American President, Michael Douglas’ character says, “You want free speech? Let’s see you acknowledge a man whose words make your blood boil, who’s standing center stage and advocating at the top of his lungs that which you would spend a lifetime opposing at the top of yours”. When you think of freedom, is this how you imagine it? That is freedom of speech. If you want to be able to say things, you need to allow others to oppose your ideas. If you believe in something, there is probably someone out there who disagrees with you. True freedom is allowing others to speak their minds.

I am a Christian. I believe that Jesus is the Messiah. I also believe the Bible is true. Some of you are not Christians. Some of you believe the Bible is a book of fiction. Some of you believe Jesus was just a guy, others just a prophet, and even others don’t believe He even existed at all. Some of you believe that there is no God, while others believe we all are God. There are many different religions and theologies out there. Most of us are pretty stubborn about our beliefs, not just in our convictions, but in our conversations. We may not agree with other faiths, but do we have to be so angry toward others when they tell us what they believe? We don’t have to berate those who disagree. Just like the freedom of speech, the freedom of religion gives everyone the right to believe what they choose. That freedom is important. If God gives us the right to choose, and the Constitution gives us the right to choose, who am I to take that choice away from you? I can offer my beliefs, and defend my choices. I can even try to convince you that you should believe what I do. What I don’t have is the right to tell you what to believe. I don’t have the right to force you, or coerce you into believing what I do. I can’t beat you, kill you, threaten you, round you up and imprison you for disagreeing. We all have the same rights to believe whatever we choose.

Civil discourse. My favorite type of discourse. I love to debate, to exchange ideas and thoughts about almost everything. I am fairly opinionated, and usually very stubborn, but I try to listen to what other people say, and try to understand where they’re coming from. I enjoy hearing multiple sides of an argument because it helps me learn. I like learning why people do things the way they do, especially when they do things that I wouldn’t, or do things in ways I wouldn’t. It would be amazing if everyone else enjoyed a good, tasteful debate. Think of how the political arena could be if the candidates could just say that they don’t agree with their opponent. “Hi, I’m Joe Awesome and I’m running for Congress. I think that my opponent, John Supercool, is a great guy, but I just don’t believe that his thoughts on balancing the budget are what we need at the moment. Now, here are my thoughts on the subject…” That would be so much better than the hateful and disrespectful exchanges we are subjected to during the political process.

If these guys can laugh together, surely we can find common ground with each other

We live in a world full of different people. Those different people have different viewpoints, different experiences and different approaches. Here in America, we have the freedom to express those differences. Embrace those differences and especially the freedom we have to express them publicly. Freedom isn’t easy, but it’s worth the effort.

Yeah, if only campaigning was done with this much smiling

I Took a Break, But I’m Still Here

Chris Snyder — Tue, 28 Jun 2011 20:45:47 +0000

…Hello? Is there anyone still around?

Hopefully you didn’t think that I stopped writing for good. I got married and decided to take some time off to prepare for the wedding and to be with my wife on our honeymoon. I had a great time in the beautiful parks of Utah, and for those of you who have never been there, you should definitely go visit sometime. Hannah and I got married in Bryce Canyon and went to Zion National Park for the honeymoon. Both were amazing, and well worth the money we spent to get there, stay there and eat there.

I do not deserve such a beautiful and wonderful wife

I am enjoying this married life, and all the fun and craziness that comes with it. But I missed writing. I didn’t think I would miss it, but I did. I really enjoy organizing my thoughts on paper (or online, whatever works). So, I guess what I’m saying is, I’m back from my break, so expect to see more of my thoughts soon. I’m going to shoot for one or two articles a week.

I guess that’s it for now. Go do something productive.